I highly recommend the following book for personal transformation, it walks you through various critical parts of personal transformation. One of the critical ones is related to being able to let go of our idealized self and moving into wholeness, moving beyond perfection into acceptance.
The pathwork of self-transformation, Eva Pierrakos
"For more than twenty years, noted therapist Eva Pierrakos was the channel for a spirit entity known only as the Guide. Combining rare psychological depth and insight with an inspiring vision of human possibility, the Guide's teachings, known as the Pathwork, have influenced many New Age thinkers. Now the core teachings of the Guide have been collected in one volume synthesizing its essential wisdom" Amazon Review